The Neurochemistry of Positive Conversations

Originally posted on HBR Blog Network - Harvard Business Review:

Why do negative comments and conversations stick with us so much longer than positive ones?

A critique from a boss, a disagreement with a colleague, a fight with a friend – the sting from any of these can make you forget a month’s worth of praise or accord. If you’ve been called lazy, careless, or a disappointment, you’re likely to remember and internalize it. It’s somehow easier to forget, or discount, all the times people have said you’re talented or conscientious or that you make them proud.

Chemistry plays a big role in this phenomenon. When we face criticism, rejection or fear, when we feel marginalized or minimized, our bodies produce higher levels of cortisol, a hormone that shuts down the thinking center of our brains and activates conflict aversion and protection behaviors. We become more reactive and sensitive. We often perceive even greater judgment and negativity than actually exists…

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@JetAirways – Presumption, Chaos, Trouble Lies Lies Lies & #Inconvenience – 20 years Legacy

Jet-Airways-Logo

Listen, That is the first quality that qualifies you are caring for the customer, empathy understand the pain of your customers as yours, Solution – Understand what your core service is .

Dear Jet Airways, I am not sure if you ever watched the billboards of Lufthansa, It says – “All for this one moment”. That is the solution you are supposed to be providing, I Don’t take a train/bus other mode of transport if what I want is travelling soon, and travelling conveniently. YOU FAILED in that service.

Listen : I have a life, my time is precious,  just like yours, and my commitments are more important to me than spending time discussing arguing and pleading for you. which I had to do on 14 Aug 2013 at 5:04 AM after tiring 1:30 hour journey from J.P nagar to other end of the city Bangalore International Airport I had no sleep while I was working all night and I would not have woken up if I would have slept, (This is not your problem, this is mine I know that.) started at 3:30 AM from my home reached Bangalore airport at 5:00 AM at 5:04 I was at your counter enquiring about my son’s ticket to buy a ticket for my 2 year old son.

Because only the previous day I realised I did not book a ticket for him and tried relentlessly to reach after the agent #Expedia India confirmed that I have not made a booking for my son, and it was not a mistake in itenary I got. He called your operations and asked me to call “YOUR” customer care to make changes to the Itenary.

It happened around 11:00 on 13 I was trying since then … till I reached the airport, If you want to give me all possible customer care numbers I can give all the numbers from Toll-free to the local Bangalore, Delhi Numbers I called about 100 of times since …

When I spoke to your kind customer service or booking agent Mr. Srinivas(/an) it was 5:04 which I mentioned while he tried to escape in the airport by saying I am late and reiterating again and again that it was 5:04 AM. I know I should be atleast 1 hour before the flight departure. with a kid and knowing the situation I can’t afford that.

He said I am good to go, been in a lengthy line, got rejected , came back to request for a ticket. I did not say mistake is on him still, I just asked for a god damn ticket for my infant. at 5:00 AM he said I can’t board the flight, he said, in his polite tone , “Sir, You may board the plane” but can’t take the kid along with you. what is that ? My Son is not a carry bag I can drop and board the flight. I think he is an alien and doesn’t know what he was talking or must be thinking he can talk what ever he wish.

then arrives a guy going to chennai with 6 month old kid for almost same time flight, he initially rejected and when he told the kid is already in, he finally gave the ticket .

I am sure you overbooked the flight and made me a scape goat for your advantage.

I had to travel to chennai, then to Vijayawada which took about 24 hours, I would have left the issue if my son and travel sick wife wouldn’t have been there.NOT NOW !

I am surprised you took a request, from guest relations, btw do you know really what relation is ? just curious after the pleasant discussion with Srinivas. who bihearted the rule book without putting thought or humanity into it. Is it his character or does it represent Jet Airways as a whole ? come on How can assume you to be any different ? after all your response ensured that .

I Strongly recommend you , your collegues and management read All About a Dog – A. G. Gardiner (Must Read if your didn’t hear your teacher atleast now) (Source:Project Gutenberg)

I am posting all the conversation here for the benefit of poor souls who hope they will be able to reach quickly and reliably using your Services. I trust other wise.

Vasundhar  <email@gmail.com>
Jet Airways (India) Limited2 messages
Shweta Acharya <guest-troublemakers@jetairways.com> Wed, Aug 28, 2013 at 4:34 PM
To: email@gmail.com
Our Ref No: BOM/JKC/SP/140813/819313328 August 2013Mr Vasundhar

Email – email@gmail.com

Dear Mr ,

Warm Greetings!

This is further to my below email. Regrettably, our enquiries took a little longer than anticipated, as a result of which we were unable to respond to you sooner.

At the outset, please accept our sincere apologies for the difficulty faced by you while intending to contact our Reservation Call Centre for the infant ticket and thereafter the inconvenience at Bengaluru airport on August 14, 2013.

As rightly mentioned, the infant booking needs to be associated with the Adult booking and there are applicable charges for the infant ticket.

The difficult faced while accessing our Telephone lines for the infant booking is deeply regretted. Upon inquiry, I understand that in view of the festive season in the coming months the call volumes have increased considerably resulting in guests facing difficulty in getting through the Call Centre lines. Our Reservation Head is working at ways and means of handling the call volumes and we are hopeful that the issue will be resolved.

Our findings with our airport team indicate that you had reported to our staff at 0525hrs and showed the soft copy of the ticket in the PDF format on your mobile phone with 2 adult itinerary. Our staff presumed that you were inquiring if the soft copy would be adequate to enter the airport to which our staff agreed and guided to go ahead. At this time the staff only checked the ticket format and not the number of guests booked. Moreover there was no communication from you about your intention to purchase the infant ticket.

Regrettably, when you returned to our staff at 0540hrs, the flight was closed in the system. Our staff also contacted the seniors to check if any exception can be done, however as the flight closure documentation formalities was already initiated we were unable to assist you board the flight. While the next flight option was offered against applicable charges, you chose to cancel the ticket.

I regret the communication gap during your first interaction with our staff at the airport and assure you that the issue has been taken up with the Bengaluru Airport Manager for staff counselling.

Mr , it has never been our intention to inconvenience you in any way and request you to view the above incident in isolation.

Notwithstanding the above, we look forward to welcoming you on board your next Jet Airways flight.

Sincerely,

Shweta Acharya

Asst. Manager – Guest Relations

Jet Airways (India) Limited

Shweta Acharya/Kaledonia/Jetairways23/08/2013 10:12
To email@gmail.com
cc
Subject Fw: Our Ref – BOM/JKC/SP/140813/8193133

Dear Mr ,

Thank you for your below email. I will certainly revert to you once our investigation is completed.

Shweta Acharya

Asst. Manager – Guest Relations

Jet Airways (India) Limited

Vasundhar <email@gmail.com>20/08/2013 18:04
To Shweta Acharya <guest-troublemakers@jetairways.com>, guestrelations@jetairways.com
cc
Subject Re: Fw: Our Ref – BOM/JKC/SP/140813/8193133

Hi Shweta,

Please find the attached Itenary for your reference.

And here is my part of story since I am not sure if everything is documented in your place.

I booked the ticket through expedia and was trying to check if the third passenger (My Son) was registered while booking as I was not sure if the infant name will be listed or not.

after many unsuccessful attempts to check the webpage , I gave them a call one day prior to my travel to double check and add  if I can because there is no way to add an infant without having adult associated with. so weather I have added before or not I wanted to add. then the customer care guys checked my itenary and confirmed his name was not listed. Went ahead and spoke to your customer relations or what ever they deal with in the backend and asked me to call the Jet Airways numbers

1800225522 and 08039893333

I tried both the numbers many times since I got the update till the moment I started at home, and finally I thought I can go to the airport and sort it out.

First thing I did when I went to the airport is going to the jet airways counter and spoke to Mr. Srinivas , asked him if my son can travel with the same ticket as the name is not mentioned, he checked the system and said I am good to go.

after I went through a long que security guys stopped me asking for the name of my son in the ticket and I came back to Srinivas(an) asking how he said I can go ? then he said I can’t take my son and I can travel but kid can’t in a mechanical way. like my son is some carry bag and I can abandon at the gate. I got furious with his attitude and tried explaining the situation and clearly he was not sensitive enough to respond and act.

While I was standing there another gentleman came with same request, he fortunately got his 6 month old son made through the security but had to go through the same process, but after lot of time he was give a pass and allowed to travel.

I was running out of time and he said he checked with the crew 45 mins prior travel but said I can’t board the flight and I can only board the flight in the next flight by paying the expensive fare which is basically last minute fare …

What I don’t understand is if you have a customer wanting to buy a ticket and can’t solve his problem over the phone because of volume is there any emergency solution to handle this .. and what makes Jet airways claim the money and trouble caused to me which resulted in more than 24 hours of travel and trauma with a kid ?

I would like to know what is the solution you are going to provide to customers ?

Regards,

Vasundhar

On Mon, Aug 19, 2013 at 12:57 PM, Shweta Acharya <guest-troublemakers@jetairways.com> wrote:

Dear Mr ,

We are inquiring on this case and will revert to you shortly.

Shweta Acharya

Asst. Manager – Guest Relations

From:        Vasundhar <email@gmail.com>

To:        Guest Relations <guestrelations@jetairways.com>

Date:        08/17/2013 10:01 AM

Subject:        Re: Our Ref – BOM/JKC/SP/140813/8193133

Where is the update and money

Sent from my iPhone

On 14-Aug-2013, at 13:11, Guest Relations <guestrelations@jetairways.com> wrote:

Dear Mr ,

This has reference to your telephonic conversation with my colleague this morning.

The contents of your communication are being looked into and we will revert to you shortly.

The reference number for your communication is BOM/JKC/SP/140813/8193133 which can be quoted in all your future correspondence on this issue.

May we request you to please bear with us till such time.

Sincerely,

Shweta Acharya

Guest Relations

Jet Airways (India) Limited

Working Hours: Mon-Fri 0900-1730hrs

This message is intended only for the person or entity to which it is addressed and may contain confidential and/or privileged information. If you have received this message in error, please notify the sender immediately and delete this message from your system. Reasonable precautions have been taken to ensure that this message is virus-free. However, Jet Airways (India) Ltd. does not accept responsibility for any loss or damage arising from the use of this message or attachments. www.jetairways.com

This message is intended only for the person or entity to which it is addressed and may contain confidential and/or privileged information. If you have received this message in error, please notify the sender immediately and delete this message from your system. Reasonable precautions have been taken to ensure that this message is virus-free. However, Jet Airways (India) Ltd. does not accept responsibility for any loss or damage arising from the use of this message or attachments. www.jetairways.com

This message is intended only for the person or entity to which it is addressed and may contain confidential and/or privileged information. If you have received this message in error, please notify the sender immediately and delete this message from your system. Reasonable precautions have been taken to ensure that this message is virus-free. However, Jet Airways (India) Ltd. does not accept responsibility for any loss or damage arising from the use of this message or attachments. www.jetairways.com

Vasundhar <email@gmail.com> Wed, Aug 28, 2013 at 9:41 PM
To: Shweta Acharya <guest-troublemakers@jetairways.com>
I was there at the airport and when I enquired time was NOT 525Hrs as you are claiming it was 504 Hrs. Knowing the ticket issue, I wouldn’t dare taking risk of reaching only 45 mins prior.I started at my home in J.P Nagar at 0330 and Reached at 5:00 at Bangalore International Airport.

Its Shame that after causing this much trouble to me, you still think you can get away with it.

Regards,

Vasundhar

On Wed, Aug 28, 2013 at 4:34 PM, Shweta Acharya <guest-troublemakers@jetairways.com> wrote:

Our Ref No: BOM/JKC/SP/140813/8193133

28 August 2013

Mr Vasundhar

Email – email@gmail.com

Dear Mr ,

Warm Greetings!

This is further to my below email. Regrettably, our enquiries took a little longer than anticipated, as a result of which we were unable to respond to you sooner.

At the outset, please accept our sincere apologies for the difficulty faced by you while intending to contact our Reservation Call Centre for the infant ticket and thereafter the inconvenience at Bengaluru airport on August 14, 2013.

As rightly mentioned, the infant booking needs to be associated with the Adult booking and there are applicable charges for the infant ticket.

The difficult faced while accessing our Telephone lines for the infant booking is deeply regretted. Upon inquiry, I understand that in view of the festive season in the coming months the call volumes have increased considerably resulting in guests facing difficulty in getting through the Call Centre lines. Our Reservation Head is working at ways and means of handling the call volumes and we are hopeful that the issue will be resolved.

Our findings with our airport team indicate that you had reported to our staff at 0525hrs and showed the soft copy of the ticket in the PDF format on your mobile phone with 2 adult itinerary. Our staff presumed(1 see below) that you were inquiring if the soft copy would be adequate to enter the airport to which our staff agreed and guided to go ahead. At this time the staff only checked the ticket format and not the number of guests booked. Moreover there was no communication from you about your intention to purchase the infant ticket.(2 see below)

>>1. (I think he is sitting there to listen to the guest, glad he did not “Presume” I am going to London, just make sure he doesn’t presume his salary every month) that you were inquiring if >>2. Another Presumption (Is it your/Srinivas Assumption? then why did he say he can only give a ticket 2 hours prior to the departure and where does it fit in the conversation?)

Regrettably, when you returned to our staff at 0540hrs, the flight was closed in the system. Our staff also contacted the seniors to check if any exception can be done, however as the flight closure documentation formalities was already initiated we were unable to assist you board the flight. While the next flight option was offered against applicable charges, you chose to cancel the ticket.

I regret the communication gap during your first interaction with our staff at the airport and assure you that the issue has been taken up with the Bengaluru Airport Manager for staff counselling.

Mr , it has never been our intention to inconvenience you in any way and request you to view the above incident in isolation.

Notwithstanding the above, we look forward to welcoming you on board your next Jet Airways flight.

Sincerely,

Shweta Acharya

Asst. Manager – Guest Relations

Jet Airways (India) Limited

Shweta Acharya/Kaledonia/Jetairways23/08/2013 10:12
To email@gmail.com
cc
Subject Fw: Our Ref – BOM/JKC/SP/140813/8193133

Dear Mr ,

Thank you for your below email. I will certainly revert to you once our investigation is completed.

Shweta Acharya

Asst. Manager – Guest Relations

Jet Airways (India) Limited

Vasundhar <email@gmail.com>20/08/2013 18:04
To Shweta Acharya <guest-troublemakers@jetairways.com>, guestrelations@jetairways.com
cc
Subject Re: Fw: Our Ref – BOM/JKC/SP/140813/8193133

Hi Shweta,

Please find the attached Itenary for your reference.

And here is my part of story since I am not sure if everything is documented in your place.

I booked the ticket through expedia and was trying to check if the third passenger (My Son) was registered while booking as I was not sure if the infant name will be listed or not.

after many unsuccessful attempts to check the webpage , I gave them a call one day prior to my travel to double check and add  if I can because there is no way to add an infant without having adult associated with. so weather I have added before or not I wanted to add. then the customer care guys checked my itenary and confirmed his name was not listed. Went ahead and spoke to your customer relations or what ever they deal with in the backend and asked me to call the Jet Airways numbers

1800225522 and 08039893333

I tried both the numbers many times since I got the update till the moment I started at home, and finally I thought I can go to the airport and sort it out.

First thing I did when I went to the airport is going to the jet airways counter and spoke to Mr. Srinivas , asked him if my son can travel with the same ticket as the name is not mentioned, he checked the system and said I am good to go.

after I went through a long que security guys stopped me asking for the name of my son in the ticket and I came back to Srinivas(an) asking how he said I can go ? then he said I can’t take my son and I can travel but kid can’t in a mechanical way. like my son is some carry bag and I can abandon at the gate. I got furious with his attitude and tried explaining the situation and clearly he was not sensitive enough to respond and act.

While I was standing there another gentleman came with same request, he fortunately got his 6 month old son made through the security but had to go through the same process, but after lot of time he was give a pass and allowed to travel.

I was running out of time and he said he checked with the crew 45 mins prior travel but said I can’t board the flight and I can only board the flight in the next flight by paying the expensive fare which is basically last minute fare …

What I don’t understand is if you have a customer wanting to buy a ticket and can’t solve his problem over the phone because of volume is there any emergency solution to handle this .. and what makes Jet airways claim the money and trouble caused to me which resulted in more than 24 hours of travel and trauma with a kid ?

I would like to know what is the solution you are going to provide to customers ?

Regards,

Vasundhar

On Mon, Aug 19, 2013 at 12:57 PM, Shweta Acharya <guest-troublemakers@jetairways.com> wrote:

Dear Mr ,

We are inquiring on this case and will revert to you shortly.

Shweta Acharya

Asst. Manager – Guest Relations

From:        Vasundhar <email@gmail.com>

To:        Guest Relations <guestrelations@jetairways.com>

Date:        08/17/2013 10:01 AM

Subject:        Re: Our Ref – BOM/JKC/SP/140813/8193133

Where is the update and money

Sent from my iPhone

On 14-Aug-2013, at 13:11, Guest Relations <guestrelations@jetairways.com> wrote:

Dear Mr ,

This has reference to your telephonic conversation with my colleague this morning.

The contents of your communication are being looked into and we will revert to you shortly.

The reference number for your communication is BOM/JKC/SP/140813/8193133 which can be quoted in all your future correspondence on this issue.

May we request you to please bear with us till such time.

Sincerely,

Shweta Acharya

Guest Relations

Jet Airways (India) Limited

Working Hours: Mon-Fri 0900-1730hrs

This message is intended only for the person or entity to which it is addressed and may contain confidential and/or privileged information. If you have received this message in error, please notify the sender immediately and delete this message from your system. Reasonable precautions have been taken to ensure that this message is virus-free. However, Jet Airways (India) Ltd. does not accept responsibility for any loss or damage arising from the use of this message or attachments. www.jetairways.com

This message is intended only for the person or entity to which it is addressed and may contain confidential and/or privileged information. If you have received this message in error, please notify the sender immediately and delete this message from your system. Reasonable precautions have been taken to ensure that this message is virus-free. However, Jet Airways (India) Ltd. does not accept responsibility for any loss or damage arising from the use of this message or attachments. www.jetairways.com

This message is intended only for the person or entity to which it is addressed and may contain confidential and/or privileged information. If you have received this message in error, please notify the sender immediately and delete this message from your system. Reasonable precautions have been taken to ensure that this message is virus-free. However, Jet Airways (India) Ltd. does not accept responsibility for any loss or damage arising from the use of this message or attachments. www.jetairways.com

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Two Evenings with Serendipity! – Man of the Heart, A Lalon Phokir Story @RangaShankara

Day 1:

My Office is in J.P Nagar, We go to Lunches with Colleagues and Friends around the place for Our Guests to Experience what Authentic food in Karnataka / Rajasthan Looks like, in that process came art, Chris and Chase wanted to get some art back home, based on Badri’s Recommendation we went to explore the place “Walking” After Lunch, Directions were clear and simple, Opposite “Ranga Shankara ” WoW !!

We were at work, need to go back soon, there are tons of things to complete before winding up, however, checked the schedule and regardless of the play wanted to be there because Theatre is simply irresistable, I wish I remembered the name since I visited this place for the first time. Nevermind!

We Got to this amazing place Frame Define , picked few beautiful frames,idols and paintings.

Next Day, after sendoffs and plesentaries and lot of Running literally and figuratively in the future, I Just started but in the Art front not the tech front which I am going to any ways.

Waved my Hand, Ranga Shankara, Damn, This Auto Guys … Insanely demanding or reluctant when you need them most, One turned off my route, he has got priorities, and most of the time more pressing than the demand. fortunately I made it when I explained its J.P Nagar Police Station Road, Ran and got the tickets.

Then I remembered my friend who wanted to pick another wonderful painting at the store, well … the painting guy was taking time, as you know about Bangalore traffic already. Knowing how much he wanted, I checked if he arrived, anxiously looking if every guy is carrying the painting, then comes a car, my friends and most important – They Are Guests of Honour. Athithi Devo Bhava, Never Turn Down the Guest. Went had really good time, There comes a Buzzing sound Starting the Play … 

No Regrets! First lesson before you start making your choices, My Friend Shyam told, years ago. Important one.

After seeing my friend happy with his precious possession, and sending off, I waited hoping the people to come out during interval , ofcourse I did not miss the detail there.

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Rangashankara On First Day 

 

Hours passed while I was slowly eating finger chips in the cafeteria, cakes and More Tea  … I wish I had a time machine, apparently for the plays there is no fixed interval, and No one came out making me wait out side till the end of the play. good I had my laptop there to do some Pure tech at Pure Art place.

Finally People started coming out one by one and guards getting ready to do something I am not sure of … then asked how long is the interval ? They said looking at me like a fool, The Show is Over! I got furious, frustrated for waiting there , hoping to peek in during the interval. There Ends my first day of serendpity. Just Outside the walls of “RangaShankara” – Unpaid guard.

 

Day 2:

I went in the afternoon during the Lunch to check if enough tickers are there, there were but there was no change for 1000, and the person at the counter was good enough to confirm that there were many tickets available. Went back to office after lunch and got into work, when I looked out of the monitor it was 19:14 Damn, I thought I am going to miss it today aswell, jumped out of the office,took a cab and reached JIT, Not knowing what is in store …

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Suman Mukhopadhyay enters the stage, explaining something about Music, and Unknown Fakir, Music is fine what this fakir life is going to be and did I waste my time ? were my thoughts … he departs and the same buzz, only difference, I am inside!

lights go off, with focused lights beaming on gentleman (Sudipto Chatterjee) dressed as “Lalon Phokir” and his team coming on stage singing and simple instruments to support themselves.

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This is what I wrote during the interval —

Amid Traffic Jams and High Octane Life …

There is a place witnessing power packer performance, a treat to ears,eyes soul and brain “RangaShankara” playing “Man of the Heart – A play about the life and times of Lalon  Phokir.” It is not 3D, nor Digital Dolby, Yes the professor used multi media but probably its not the reason why the people never left the auditorium.

5 “Simple” Subjects, You might ignore in the broad day light, Joins to tell a story of equally pedestrian fakir, For the souls longing to realise the secret of life in much simpler subtle ways one doesn’t expect. His Name is Lalon Phokir as they might call him, but name you can ignore, his songs, his philosophy are as contemporary as they were 2 centuries ago, they are lullabies to ears, hearts and souls , however they wake up another world awakening you to see the life inward and out.

I didn’t feel I was breating, only making subtle moves when the legs or hands paining due to prolonged immobility. It was not just one , its Music, its Philosopy, Its Religion and Its beyond.

I Strongly Recommend reading about this Phokir, (mendicant

Water of the Ganga is called Holy.
But it’s the same water filling
The puddle on the road we call dirty!
That is how the Saain shapes Himself…
in size with the vessel He fills! – Lalon Phokir


http://www.parabaas.com/translation/database/reviews/lalon_drama.html

He lived simple life against the British rule, social injustice and bringing Unity across regions around him.

Team:Rendered by Daminee Basu, the song is accompanied by Satyaki Banerjee (dotara), Nazrul Shah (ektara), Mriganabhi Chattopadhyay (water effects), Rashmi Bhatt (wind effects) and supported vocally by Sudipto Chatterjee. 

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Doing the “Right Thing” not based on Popularity. #DelhiGangRape

There is a part wanted me to Hang all the Six involved in Delhi Incident, so strongly that felt the need for the govt., to ensure safety to girls now and more seriously in 3 more months when the juvenile is going to be released with what ever spirit that might have got him through wide media coverage and attention and other things not to mention his exposure to more criminals in & out.

We all more or less raised a voice, the govt, though did not acknowledge or support or act to protect the people, rights and assurance of security to people, it did recognise there is revolution under way and protests are just at the face of it.

Govt., did high drama of sending the victim to singapore, without asking logical/humane questions that should have been asked by a life saving doctor or a protective govt., rather they did successfully washed their hands, repeatedly without slightest sense.

Courts have taken up the case, amidst protests and Judiciary despite the gravity of the situation acted and acting so much responsibly making sure the judgement process is as per the perfect legal guidelines.

They checked the criminal’s ages, chargesheeted 5 and verifying the details of sixth one. Fortunate or Unfortunate he is a Minor in legal sense, and can’t be punished beyond the legal framework how much ever terrible the crime may be.

I was listening to some random channel interviewing his principal from school, he clearly said the boy is less than 18 year old, left school after completing 3rd std. so how do I react to that ?

should we kill this guy for what ever he did or should we kill the system or the govt., or probably each one of us who are directly or indirectly helping the people to drop out of schools because we are not being responsible in selecting the right candidates, we don’t want to get into politics or teaching or we don’t take up any socially responsible jobs and we fight for mundane reservations, partitions and all possible non constructive activities.

I am not just worried about possible victims of this juvenile, but many more possible ones that have already dropped out of schools and getting trained in the same school this boy or may be much worse than the one this kid got exposed to.

Its not about dress code, nor it is about sex education or some other weird non practical idealisting thing like teaching karate to women to protect etc., because you can’t practically teach 2 year old to fight back and how much ever you do … its not going to be strong enough to stop from the malevolent eyes.

Our priority shifts to education and governance. may be there is some saint who can explain talk and make this guy reasonable human being or what ever . but We Should stick to most important agenda of bringing the Right People to Power, giving the Right Education.

I felt proud listening to what judiciary did because its easy to do the right thing when it is popular, but doing the right thing knowing that the world wants something else either logically or emotionally or what ever needs lot of commitment. we should Thank and Appreciate our Judges and Lawyers in the courts.

Thanks to a friend who made me watch 12 Angry Men (

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https://duckduckgo.com/?q=12+Angry+Men+1957) for thought provoking reflections.

 

Doing the “Right Thing” not based on Popularity. #DelhiGangRape

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There is a part wanted me to Hang all the Six involved in Delhi Incident, so strongly that felt the need for the govt., to ensure safety to girls now and more seriously in 3 more months when the juvenile is going to be released with what ever spirit that might have got him through wide media coverage and attention and other things not to mention his exposure to more criminals in & out.

We all more or less raised a voice, the govt, though did not acknowledge or support or act to protect the people, rights and assurance of security to people, it did recognise there is revolution under way and protests are just at the face of it.

Govt., did high drama of sending the victim to singapore, without asking logical/humane questions that should have been asked by a life saving doctor or a protective govt., rather they did successfully washed their hands, repeatedly without slightest sense.

Courts have taken up the case, amidst protests and Judiciary despite the gravity of the situation acted and acting so much responsibly making sure the judgement process is as per the perfect legal guidelines.

They checked the criminal’s ages, chargesheeted 5 and verifying the details of sixth one. Fortunate or Unfortunate he is a Minor in legal sense, and can’t be punished beyond the legal framework how much ever terrible the crime may be.

I was listening to some random channel interviewing his principal from school, he clearly said the boy is less than 18 year old, left school after completing 3rd std. so how do I react to that ?

should we kill this guy for what ever he did or should we kill the system or the govt., or probably each one of us who are directly or indirectly helping the people to drop out of schools because we are not being responsible in selecting the right candidates, we don’t want to get into politics or teaching or we don’t take up any socially responsible jobs and we fight for mundane reservations, partitions and all possible non constructive activities.

I am not just worried about possible victims of this juvenile, but many more possible ones that have already dropped out of schools and getting trained in the same school this boy or may be much worse than the one this kid got exposed to.

Its not about dress code, nor it is about sex education or some other weird non practical idealisting thing like teaching karate to women to protect etc., because you can’t practically teach 2 year old to fight back and how much ever you do … its not going to be strong enough to stop from the malevolent eyes.

Our priority shifts to education and governance. may be there is some saint who can explain talk and make this guy reasonable human being or what ever . but We Should stick to most important agenda of bringing the Right People to Power, giving the Right Education.

I felt proud listening to what judiciary did because its easy to do the right thing when it is popular, but doing the right thing knowing that the world wants something else either logically or emotionally or what ever needs lot of commitment. we should Thank and Appreciate our Judges and Lawyers in the courts.

Thanks to a friend who made me watch 12 Angry Men (https://duckduckgo.com/?q=12+Angry+Men+1957) for thought provoking reflections.

 

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Yet Again, A World is Destroyed,Is not the Only One! #DelhiGangRape

Excerpt from Manusmriti 3.56  Reads:

Sanskrit: 

यत्र नार्यस्तु पूज्यन्ते रमन्ते तत्र देवता: ।
यत्रैतास्तु न पूज्यन्ते सर्वास्तत्राफला: क्रिया: ।।

अर्थ = जहां पर स्त्रियों की पूजा होती है, वहां देवता रमते हैं । जहाँ उनकी पूजा नहीं होती, वहाँ सब काम निष्फल होते हैं ।
 

English :-

Yatra Naryastu Pujyante Ramante Tatra Devata ।
Yatraitaastu Na Pujyante Sarvaastatrafalaah Kriyaah ।।

Meaning: “Where Women Are Honored , Divinity Blossoms There; And Where They Are Dishonored , All Action Remains Unfruitful.”

We are Born in India which believes in Manusmriti, and believe Ravana was destroyed because he abducted Sita – Wife of Rama 

And Kauravas destroyed because they insulted Draupadi – Wife of Pandavas

Its so unfortunate that the girls irrespective of their age,dressing or anything being insulted in various ways unspeakable by any human or animal and most disgusting of all, being made responsible for their actions.

I Blogged Here way back in 2005 Now after 7 years there is no difference NOTHING, things have gone from Bad to worse. 

Delhi remains insecure for both men and women and more so to the women.

When a Girl child is born, her parents will be dreaming of her eyes, she speaks her first words and all small naughty things she would have told, then the schooling … Dreams of her education, marriage, grand children and husband Dreams … Dream and Dreams …

Then comes a fucking moron, who thinks her like an object, satisfying his desires, satisfies his sadistic pleasures and leaves her on the road … For a bastard like that it doesn’t matter if he just destroyed a world, he is just concerned about pleasure he experiences (I am not sure if that is the case too) Or just for fun.

Then some report, some are too scared to face the “Society” that doesn’t console or support but despirate to castrate her as if it was done willingly or because of “HER” attitude.

There are kids as small as 2 , 3, 4, 5 being used as objects – Who are these so called moral police? Do they even know what humanity is about ? without blaming the victim ? 

Its Physical and Mental Torture for life for the victim, from the burns and bruises and the Society. 

While the news and headlines of Delhi News is still in the air there are more scrollings going about kids being targetted in 3 states of about 5 yrs age. 

This time we are not silent, we need action, we need involvement, We need support from all walks of life volunaring to protect our girl child.

We Need to be proactive, protective or what you see is a country full of barbarians – Justice is only reactive in a country full of corrupt policy makers busy protecting their asses in the cover of Z category security.

We Need people who dare to go there stand up and make decisions. Not Puppets.

BTW The 23 year old girl who is undergoing emergency surgeries and in ICU was on her way to become a doctor to save lives. Its the pathetic state of the State.

Legal system in India gives right to defend and protect yourself or protect some one, so any Ideas about how to treat a rapist before handing over – Comments are welcome to make India a better place again.  

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Secret Block – That was never mentioned.

Lego

Thank You My Son, I thought for a moment, It took almost a week to figure out how I can use,present and make it usable,reusable and adoptable. 

Now Let me tell you the story.

Me and My 2 year old son were playing with the Lego Bricks, Tracks and Trains as usual, while I was trying to build some thing, he was (In my opinion) disturbing the structure continuously, I looked at him and presented what I thought is my point of view. He obviously did not agree and he has got his own Ideas of construction or what ever he may wish to call the process.

Like a typical seller for the product Idea, I pushed, requested, begged and tried to act as if I am angry (which I am obviously not) nothing worked. I continued to play for a while and had to take a break to attend a call from colleague.

I returned after a while, observing if my son learnt to construct or if messed up the half built structure I created before leaving, He doesn't seem to change much but still enjoying what ever he has been doing but only with different tactics this time and different blocks.

Then I asked myself, why ?

This Manual for the Blocks come in 8 pages, explaining beautiful three dimensional images with handsome / beautiful kids as if they are being constructed by them, Here I have a guy busy not seeming to build or let us build any of the structures or shown in those pretty manuals, still happy and may be more happier than the ones in the manual ?

I think this is the problem of growing old/ growing big and expecting every thing as predicted/designed/assumed with expectation of getting the results that we perceive as natual outcomes of the actions we do. That happens in dreams.

Before I loose track of the story, My Mistake was assuming the happiness is constructing a building, while it is in experience, exploration, learning and doing mistakes and doing more mistakes in the process to learn. I forgot to enjoy the process while expecting the out come which My son was doing.

It took me long time, and a small break to come out, observe and analyse to understand it systemically.

This holds true for every thing. When you are in the middle of something people expect you to talk, your clients expect you to provide solutions and may be family expect you to guide. But It will always be better to come out and observe then provide solution or try to understand for better control over the situations.

In Scrabble you have a Blank Tile this is that tile in life, which is never mentioned in management – Take a Break , Sit back , Relax. This gives you both perspectives as an Insider and out.

Good Luck 

Secret Block – That was never mentioned.

Lego

Thank You My Son, I thought for a moment, It took almost a week to figure out how I can use,present and make it usable,reusable and adoptable. 

Now Let me tell you the story.

Me and My 2 year old son were playing with the Lego Bricks, Tracks and Trains as usual, while I was trying to build some thing, he was (In my opinion) disturbing the structure continuously, I looked at him and presented what I thought is my point of view. He obviously did not agree and he has got his own Ideas of construction or what ever he may wish to call the process.

Like a typical seller for the product Idea, I pushed, requested, begged and tried to act as if I am angry (which I am obviously not) nothing worked. I continued to play for a while and had to take a break to attend a call from colleague.

I returned after a while, observing if my son learnt to construct or if messed up the half built structure I created before leaving, He doesn’t seem to change much but still enjoying what ever he has been doing but only with different tactics this time and different blocks.

Then I asked myself, why ?

This Manual for the Blocks come in 8 pages, explaining beautiful three dimensional images with handsome / beautiful kids as if they are being constructed by them, Here I have a guy busy not seeming to build or let us build any of the structures or shown in those pretty manuals, still happy and may be more happier than the ones in the manual ?

I think this is the problem of growing old/ growing big and expecting every thing as predicted/designed/assumed with expectation of getting the results that we perceive as natual outcomes of the actions we do. That happens in dreams.

Before I loose track of the story, My Mistake was assuming the happiness is in constructing a building, while it is in experience, exploration, learning and doing mistakes and doing more mistakes in the process to learn. I forgot to enjoy the process while expecting the out come which My son was doing.

It took me long time, and a small break to come out, observe and analyse to understand it systemically.

This holds true for every thing. When you are in the middle of something people expect you to talk, your clients expect you to provide solutions and may be family expect you to guide. But It will always be better to come out physically and mentally for moment,observe then provide solution or try to understand the problem from different perspectives, it not only gives you better understanding but also better outcomes.

In Scrabble you have a Blank Tile this is that tile in life, which is never mentioned in management – Take a Break , Sit back , Relax. This gives you both perspectives as an Insider and out.

Good Luck 

p.s There is nothing wrong to dismantle everything and start over with Fresh Ideas!

Photo Credit : http://www.onesmileymonkey.com

Google Maps for iOS6 *Not ready* for iPads. #iOS #GoogleMaps #Apple

I am sure many are mislead by the articles that are pouring in about the iOS Maps App, but that is built for small screens like iPod,iPhones iPod Touch Etc.,Don’t get mislead by the compatibility … It does show the maps on your giant ipad screens but you won’t like to if You have already done that mistake.

Compatible with iPhone 3GS, iPhone 4, iPhone 4S, iPhone 5, iPod touch (3rd generation), iPod touch (4th generation), iPod touch (5th generation) and iPad. Requires iOS 5.1 or later. This app is optimized for iPhone 5. 

Google Maps for iOS6 *Not ready* for iPads. #iOS #GoogleMaps #Apple

I am sure many are mislead by the articles that are pouring in about the iOS Maps App, but that is built for small screens like iPod,iPhones iPod Touch Etc.,Don’t get mislead by the compatibility … It does show the maps on your giant ipad screens but you won’t like to if You have already done that mistake.

Compatible with iPhone 3GS, iPhone 4, iPhone 4S, iPhone 5, iPod touch (3rd generation), iPod touch (4th generation), iPod touch (5th generation) and iPad. Requires iOS 5.1 or later. This app is optimized for iPhone 5. 

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